I'm sure everyone is reflecting right about now, whether it be about resolutions we haven't kept or making new ones we may or may not keep. I was having a good conversation with a new friend and I found myself telling her personal things that I haven't told anyone or even thought about in quite a while.
She asked about my year. And yes, I do contest that I am very blessed. I will also say this year was the most difficult, second to the year my father died.
This year, I went from having a nice big desk in a nice big office to having my salary cut in half and working part-time under someone I'd previously trained. After all that, I found out I was let go via text message. Classy. The dominoes starting falling in January and the ripple effects continued up until now. This year I also found myself being a working make-up artist with clientele that can call on me and a brand spanking new business that I'm excited about. I've had triumphs. I've had pitfalls and if I find myself alive on January 1, 2009 at 12:01 am, I will gladly say that I've survived it all.
So, here are a few realizations I've made about 2009 that I will carry with me in the new year. (numbered but not by importance)
1. IF you can't keep it in your pants the first month you're talking to someone new...it's lust and it probably will burn out as quickly as it became hot. Take your time in relationships. You may not know til after you sleep with him that he hates gay people and kills bunnies. Then, where will you be then?
2. Do not trust people that try to befriend you and then spill their guts too early in a friendship. I say this, not because I am Spock-like in my emotional life but because I attract these people. They are needy and will drain you like a succubus.
3. DO trust your gut. If you smell the milk and it smells spoiled, you don't have to taste it to confirm. It all ends sour in your tummy if you do.
4. Dream. Dream like you are a child with limitless possibilities. If people are for you, you they will support you even if they do not quite understand or agree. The Internet started out as a dream. No one even knew what the heck Internet was before someone thought it up. Look at us now!
5. No one respects a dreamer with no action. If you're going to dream then you need to get off your hiney and make it happen.
6. Recognize when a situation is not for you! That goes for every aspect of your life: job, relationships, everything...There's a reason why it didn't work out with that guy. There's a reason why that job let you go. There's a reason why that blouse doesn't fit. Recognize it and move on.
I'm full of these lately, so I'm sure there will be more.
Stay tuned for the "Of the Years" this week. There should be a post every day this week. (I'm trying!) and yea...
What are your 2009 realizations?? Sankofa guys...before we can go forward, we have to look backwards!
(Speakign of looking backwards, check out my Sunday morning video posted yesterday)
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